What is an Aftercare Plan in Addiction Recovery?

What Is an Aftercare Plan in Addiction Recovery?

Getting sober is hard work. However, getting sober is just the beginning. You need an aftercare plan that will support your life in long-term recovery. Prior to getting sober your decisions were likely all focused on getting and using drugs and alcohol. After you get sober, you will find that you may have a lot of life decisions to make. It’s essential to know that your choices are votes for or against your recovery and overall health. Having an aftercare plan in place can help you to make those decisions and reduce your stress.  At  The Nook, we understand the importance of an aftercare plan and we would like to be a part of yours.  

What Is an Aftercare Plan in Addiction Recovery?

If you were planning a trip, you would likely figure out where you would go, what sights you would want to see, where you would eat, and where you would sleep. You can think of an aftercare plan as your itinerary for recovery. With the goal of long-term sobriety in mind, you will make decisions about how to structure your life after treatment. Getting and staying sober requires a great many changes.  You may find that you need to change where you work, where you live, and with whom you spend your time. An aftercare plan is something you create while you are in treatment and then refer back to it as you make your way in recovery. Your treatment team can use their expertise to make suggestions and guide you in identifying the resources you need to be successfully sober. An aftercare plan is a blueprint for your sober life. No one should leave rehab or addiction treatment without an aftercare plan.

Why It’s Important to Keep Up With Your Aftercare Plan

While sometimes it is fun to go exploring on a trip without a map, you’ll want to have an aftercare plan to guide you in your sobriety. Many researchers have found that relapse rates after completing treatment can be as high as fifty percent. Most studies have shown that it is the absence of a relapse prevention plan that leads to such a high rate of relapse. It is this high rate of relapse that makes an aftercare plan so vital to your recovery success. Many find it helpful to transition from the higher intensities of treatment to lower intensities of treatment. Your plan might begin with inpatient treatment and then be followed by outpatient counseling and attendance at peer support recovery groups. Likewise, you might find it helpful to reside in a sober living facility and plan other activities that will help support your sobriety. Your aftercare plan will be specific to you and your sobriety. The key is to have a plan and use it.

Why You Should Go to The Nook Sober Living

The early days of sobriety can be challenging, and you may be wondering if you can stay sober. Sober living homes are the bridge between early and long-term sobriety. Depending on your current circumstances, you may want a location close to those you know, or you may want to start over in a new place. Once you’ve selected an area, you’ll want to look for a sober house that will best support you.  Sober living homes located in Los Angeles are located centrally to allow for outings to the beach, the golf course, the mountains, and explore Los Angeles.  At The Nook, we focus on lifelong recovery. We offer our clients support to live a life that allows for maintaining employment, educational, and familial commitments. Contact us today to see how we can help your life in recovery. 

The Signs of Relapse to Look Out for in Your Loved One

The signs of relapse to look out for in your loved one

Addiction is a heartbreaking disease, and it’s heartbreak is increased by relapse. Sadly, the research has shown that the higher the dependence on drugs, the higher the chance that relapse will occur. If your loved one has relied on drugs and alcohol as their only coping mechanism, the early days of sobriety can be tricky. Using drugs and alcohol as the escape hatch from stress and difficulty is a hard habit to break. Still, those in early recovery may seem just as emotional and moody as someone who has relapsed, so it’s good to know the signs of relapse. If you were there for your loved one’s active addiction, think about the symptoms you saw during their active use and use those as your barometer for what’s happening now. At  The Nook, we know that relapse happens, and we’re here to help. We can be part of the plan to help prevent a relapse or to return from a relapse. 

What Is a Relapse in Addiction Recovery? 

While relapse is simply a return to using drugs and/or alcohol, most who relapse admit that it began long before they used again. Learning how to live without drugs and alcohol isn’t easy. It requires a lot of new skills and practice using those new skills. Whether someone goes to treatment, attends peer support groups, goes to therapy, or completes some combination of therapies, relapse can still happen. Relapse is not a sign of weakness or failure. Sometimes relapse is simply a part of recovery. When someone is learning how to ride a bicycle and falls down, we don’t tell them that they are a failure. We ask them to get back up and try again. Relapse can be thought of as falling off of the bike of sobriety. It may be a sign that different interventions or treatments may need to be investigated, or it just may be a lesson of a life to which someone does not want to return. 

The Signs of Relapse to Look Out For

You know your loved one better than anyone else. You’ve seen them during their active addiction, and you’ve seen them sober. You know the difference, but you still may question what are and are not signs of relapse. As a person on the sidelines of someone else’s recovery, you’re walking a bit of a tightrope as you balance wanting to trust them and wanting to identify relapse. The physical signs of relapse will often depend on the drug being used. For example, a person who uses opioids, such as heroin or fentanyl, exhibits pinpoint pupils and drowsiness. However, a person using stimulants such as cocaine might seem to be moving at a faster speed. Regardless of the drug being used, you’ll likely also see changes in behavior. If your loved one suddenly seems more secretive or has more mood swings, there might be cause for concern. 

Why You Should Go to the Nook for Sober Living

The early days of sobriety can be challenging, and sober living facilities can offer additional support. Sober living homes are the bridge between earlier and more extended sobriety. You’ll want to look for a sober house that will best support your loved ones as they learn to create a sober life.  Sober living homes located in Los Angeles are located centrally to allow for outings to the beach, to the golf course, to the mountains, and to explore Los Angeles.  At The Nook, we focus on lifelong recovery. We offer our clients support to live a life that allows for the maintenance of employment, educational, and familial commitments. Contact us today to see how we can help you or your loved ones create a life in recovery. 

Personal Boundaries

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What are personal Boundaries?

Boundaries determine acceptable behavior. Safety cannot exist without boundaries. Imagine driving without any traffics rules, signs or lights! Boundaries simply exist to keep ourselves protected from harm. Personal boundaries work the same way. They are the emotional, physical and mental parameters we set for ourselves. Love and healthy relationships cannot exist without the enforcement of personal boundaries because they protect ourselves from disrespect, exploitation, manipulation, and violation.  

There are many types of personal boundaries. Material boundaries govern whether and how much we give to others, such as money, items, etc. Physical boundaries relate to personal space and how close we let others get to us. Mental boundaries concern our values, opinions and thoughts. Emotional boundaries separate your own emotions from others. Sexual boundaries reinforce your level of comfort with sexual touch and experience. Spiritual boundaries apply to your beliefs and experiences with a higher power. Internal boundaries relate to your relationship with yourself.

Why are they important?

Setting personal boundaries is our way of establishing and communicating self respect, self esteem and self worth. Personal boundaries create individuality and keep us safe from external factors. Healthy personal boundaries are important because they allow you to take care of yourself and not let others define who you are.  

Can you have too many or too little personal boundaries?

Personal boundaries come in three groups: rigid, porous and healthy. Rigid boundaries refer to too many boundaries. Meaning you don’t let others get close to you at all and avoid intimacy. Porous boundaries include too loose of boundaries. For example, sharing too much with others too quickly or tolerating someone crossing your own boundaries. Healthy boundaries are shown in sharing an appropriate amount of info, respecting other’s boundaries, and valuing your own opinion, and not compromising your own boundaries.

How do you know they are being crossed?

Boundaries can be both easy and difficult to detect. For example, someone who doesn’t have many personal boundaries themselves will most likely not be able to detect when they’ve crossed other’s boundaries. The first step in becoming aware of boundary crossing is to become more self aware. Asking yourself questions like the following can be helpful in gaining self awareness: Do I feel angry at certain people? Does something feel off when I am around someone in particular? Do I often times feel overwhelmed and burdened by others needs? Writing down lists and your expectations of others can help as well.

Why do boundaries get crossed?personal boundaries 2

Often times people who lack self awareness tend to be unware of their own boundaries and therefore lack the awareness of other’s boundaries. People who have grown up in households with few boundaries often grow up to have issues with boundaries. Some people cross boundaries to take advantage and manipulate others.

Boundaries are crossed because they can be both confusing and conflicting. Sometimes boundaries are not clear all the time and also vary from culture to culture. Additionally, personal boundaries are often not reinforced enough in childhood and teach children that their own boundaries are not important. For example, parents will pressure their children into hugging a relative that they don’t feel comfortable with. This reinforces the idea that their boundaries are not important and that it is okay for others to do things to them they don’t like and to ignore your own boundaries. Furthermore, because we are all unique and imperfect, boundaries are bound to get crossed from time to time. It’s impossible to know other people’s boundaries all the time and to never cross any. For example, when meeting someone for the first time, you don’t list off all your boundaries right away. Boundaries are learned over time and are usually enforced when they have been crossed. The important thing is that we listen to our own and other’s boundaries and do not habitually or intentionally cross or ignore them.

How do you set them?

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Your tone is very important when setting boundaries. The most effective way to set boundaries is with a calm, clear and assertive tone. You can also communicate the clear consequences. More

 importantly knowing your own boundaries is the first step in setting them. Developing self awareness is key. Second, it is imperative that you understand you have a right to your boundaries. Third, let go of how others may react. We cannot control how others react to our boundaries. If someone does not want to respect them or does not care for you because of them, then they may not be a safe person to have in your life. Finally, practice setting boundaries. Role playing with someone can be helpful. The more you set boundaries the easier it will get.